Under Her

Hello again!

I thought I'd start with the true and totally non-fictional description of the relationship my co-moderator and I share (besides being married). I doubt I can do it all justice in one simple blog, but at least it gets things underway and sets the tone, so to speak.

We are living proof that the woman can take her seat upon her man's face and still have a very caring, sharing, supportive, respectful and loving relationship! In fact, it is my theory that all of these things are accentuated by this part of human sexuality...especially, believe it or not, the respect part.

I know, I know, it's not hard for you to understand why I'd have plenty of respect for her! And awe and maybe a little fear, but that makes it all the more exciting, you know. And yes, I have all of that and more for her. But what you don't see written about much is in a healthy relationship in which face-sitting occurs relatively often, it's quite natural for the woman to respect the man whose face she smothers. Why? Because let's "face" it. Not every guy would be able to take it. Not only in the physical way, but psychologically, emotionally, etc. For one thing, you have to have a certain confidence level to be able to be a "face seat," of any kind. Plus, they KNOW what they are putting you through, mostly, and when we finally are released...for a minute or a day....they admire the fact that their man is someone who can take what they enjoy doing. So the respect issue is important and certainly exists for both the man and the woman.

My co-moderator, Jaye, will give you her own ideas and thoughts on this and other real life issues, but she may not tell you how absolutely gorgeous she is, with a very curvy body, ivory skin, blonde hair and the perfect ass. I am quite fond of it of course, and VERY happy she is proud of her derriere! I think too many women get caught up in the "I have to be as thin as the models in this catalog" thing. So not only is she happy and confident about her body, she is very dominant by nature and so sometimes she can really put me "on the spot!"

I've made the mistake before of trying to script out a bit of a face-sitting play and having her throw it all out and just do it her own way...which is quite often MUCH more intense, rough and punishing than what I thought we were going to do. That is a bit of a problem with face-sitting...or can be. The male has no way of communicating really, anything at all, since his entire face is smothered and "out of sight and out of mind." There is no possibility of using the "safe word" strategy sexperts always insist on using when there is much power play exchange going on. A safe word, by the way, is an already agreed upon word that if someone uses during whatever play they are engaged in it means to stop, cease and desist right away.

So the woman, being in total control, has a lot of responsibility because the male's world has been reduced down to quick breaths when he is able and not much else. There is no light, of course and the mere sitting weight of the female can cause a sort of helpless daze and accompanying dizzyness almost immediately. If she plans on retaining her "throne" for longer than a few minutes, she must be tuned into his breathing and allowing him quicker and longer breaths towards the beginning until he catches his rhythm, begins hyperventilation and is able to hold his breath longer and longer...as is usually the case. This is assuming, of course, that he is not exerting himself much if at all and she is not really "letting him have it" and instead, simply sitting.

Personally? I have to be basically prepared for anything since I never know what Jaye intends to do or for how LONG until she's doing it. It could be a quick 10-second reminder of where she can put me and how it feels or it could be the start of a two to three hour long "session." Luckily, we are very tuned in to each other and she rarely makes a mistake. So when she does NOT get up and I HAVE to breathe and neither happens, I know with my last, faltering thoughts she in all likelihood is indeed intending to pass me out. It doesn't happen too often, but often enough for me to always show her the proper awe and reverence to avoid it if I can. Oh, who am I kidding? There is NO avoiding it at all if that is what she wants, let me tell you. And it does no good getting upset or mad upon awakening a few minutes later because that's a very good way for it to happen right away again. :)

Well, more later. Please let's hear your thoughts!

- Tweaky